Feeling Helpless After Suffering an Offense

The feeling of helplessness often follows when we endure an offense. Other times the thoughts of wanting to respond negatively to the offense is at the forefront of our minds. Yet there is one thing we must always remember… God will hold people accountable for the offense and deceit they commit. It’s one of the many sureties in life. I’ve learned to rest in that truth.

“Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord” (Romans 12:19). He will definitely repay. He does so in such a seamless way, it supersedes any conceivable reprimand or punishment a person could concoct. He intimately knows the oppressor just as he knows the person who is oppressed.

Find peace in His bound less wisdom. Find rest in His plans.


There’s a reason long-suffering is a fruit of the Spirit. We can’t produce the level of understanding and patience another human being needs. People are flawed. They progress and regress constantly. Occasionally, they execute both in the same day. God given tolerance is essential to maintaining relationships. When faced with stress or chaos we often overlook the needs of people close to us, when in fact it is our opportunity to demonstrate the love, acceptance, and patience God wants us to share amongst each other. 
Don’t allow stress and hard times to draw wedges between your relationships. If anything, it’s a time to draw closer together. Ask God to give you the long-suffering you need to reach out to others even during the most desperate, overwhelming moments in life.

Change: Patience During the Process

God gave me understanding through a song, “The Best in Me,” sung by Marvin Sapp. I correlated it with the understanding I received earlier today,  which was God believes in us because He can  simultaneously see our past, present, and future. I’m so very thankful He can or else I would give up on my ability to change.

Under pressure people can change, similarly to how pressure creates a diamond. At other times, pressure hinders the process. People react to genuineness and support. Positive reinforcement is more effective in most cases. Even eustress (good stress) is preferred over negative.

Long lasting change takes time. It has to be adopted, tried, and tested. Habits are hard to break and only through diligent repetition, focus, and dedication can a new habit be formed. 


When things start to spin out of control, I become overwhelmed and immediately step back from the situation. I perceive the entire picture as opposed to the current situation. The crisis may only be a small puzzle piece in the grand scheme of things. Once one fire is extinguished, there will undoubtedly be another. But staying focused on the end goal keeps my head in the game. 

History Repeats Itself 

I think I’m a glutton for punishment. I’ve gone down a well known road yet again. I take responsibility for my actions but wonder why such trouble attracts itself to me… or maybe I’m attracted to it. Regardless, I feel a lose in my heart. The familiar feeling of a dream that has flitted away. As illusive and beautiful as a butterfly, my dream has fluttered out of my grasp. The ache in my heart will surely last a while. 

Dear New Teacher: Letter Series (Part 1 – Integrity)

Dear New Teacher,

Initially, I aimed to start this letter series off at the beginning of the journey of a first-year teacher… or at least what I deem the beginning. : ) After much deliberation, I’m going to discuss one of the most crucial aspects of teaching, integrity. I assume that if you’ve decided to become a teacher, you’ve already realized it’s a calling and a matter of the heart. (In later posts I will discuss maintaining one’s passion in the face of opposition, discouragement, and various other road blocks). With the rise in high stakes testing and the scandals inevitably to follow, I believe it is necessary to go in with the mindset to uphold an exemplary level of integrity and accountability regardless of how difficult it may be.

Integrity, by Merriam-Webster’s definition, is “…the quality of being honest and fair.” It is often referred to it as, “doing the right thing, even when no one is watching.” New Teacher, you will have plenty of situations to test your character. Don’t think for a second you will be able to remain bright eyed and bushy tailed forever. Nationwide high stakes testing, amended teacher evaluations, and curriculum changes have greatly decreased your opportunities for creativity in the classroom. Not to say you won’t have some level of autonomy, but you will have to teach according to a particular format if your school district has instituted Common Core. Your effectiveness as a teacher will also be evaluated according to certain criteria. The criteria are normally based on observations of your classroom teaching and whether your students have met certain learning targets. I’ve said all this to give you a gist of what could possibly cause anyone to allow their integrity to be called into question. When their livelihood is in jeopardy, a person can be pushed to do things they wouldn’t otherwise do in order to continue to provide for their families. I am in no way endorsing ‘doing whatever it takes.’ I am simply providing another prospective of the causes for lack of integrity in the education field from the perspective of a classroom teacher.

Before you dart through your classroom door with visions of pastel colored bulletins, ActivBoards, and graphic organizers for every activity imaginable, you have some decisions to make. You will have to decide in your heart what you are going to do when an administrator puts the lean on you because a certain number of students are not passing your class, even though they clearly have not earned the grade. You will have to decide what you are going to do when a student who is a disciplinary problem is repeatedly allowed back into your class, and the administration turns a blind eye in other to keep the number of students needing disciplinary action down. You will have to decide whether you will spend your class time ‘teaching to a test.’ To go a step further, the stress placed on classroom teachers in regard to differentiated instruction may be, for you, a source of turmoil. There will be times you ask yourself, “How much is too much modification?”

It would be wise to consult several ethical decision-making models. The Fisher Model, specifically, focuses on being prepared for an ethical decision before it happens. Being proactive is a must in the education field. It doesn’t just apply to classroom management. A teacher needs to be prepared to deal with tough decisions and do so with integrity. It comes with the territory.

If you don’t already have one, genuinely seek a mentor. Some schools may overlook assigning new teachers to mentors. It is normally to the detriment of the teacher and the school because one of the best ways to measure progress is through non-evaluative methods. Mentors are able to give new teachers valuable feedback and wisdom.

Teacher organizations, whether they are professional/academic or labor unions, are consulting resources to be considered. Besides searching out counsel from seasoned professionals, I’ve been doing research. To explore the history of our education system and gain a different perspective of events, I’m reading a book called The Teacher Wars by Dana Goldstein. I’ll post a book review once I’m finished reading it.

My words are meant to provoke thought and discussion. It is not my intent to incite ire or ridicule. It is more of a charge to remain steadfast. I empathize with the crushing need to make a livelihood. On the other hand, I don’t want to question the morality of my actions while acquiring said livelihood.

My First Album Review – The Process by: Angel Victoria

She’s come to set the captives free from wrong thinking, mistaken identity, and a spirit of rejection. It balances well with overtones of gentleness and compassion. The album is diverse in its ability to relate to women and men as she calls both to purity and the cause of Christ. While she is speaking to women of all ages in the song, “Mirror, Mirror,” men can also be encouraged to know their true value and strength through God’s eyes. “Die Daily” and “Child of a King” are also songs that minister to a generation consumed by a world out to steal the very essence of who called has called them to be. I look forward with joyful anticipation of Angel Victoria’s future works.

Downloads of The Process can be found on the following websites:







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